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4.1 — Myself, My Friend

4.1.1 – People You Love

Group Discussion (5 mins)

  • Ask participants to think quietly: “Who are the people you love or care about?”
  • After 1-2 minutes, ask for volunteers to share some of the people they thought about. Prompt for more people they know, and relationships, etc.
  • After fielding some answers, ask: “Did anyone think about themselves as a person that you love and care about?”
    • Most people will say no, some people will say yes
    • Note that there’s no right or wrong answer, but it’s interesting to notice!
  • Ask participants to think quietly: “Who are the people you love or care about?”
  • After 1-2 minutes, ask for volunteers to share some of the people they thought about. Prompt for more people they know, and relationships, etc.
  • Continue: “How do you treat those people you thought about when they are struggling?”
  • Discuss the 2–3 responses with the group
  • Examples may include encouraging them, listening to them, comforting them, or helping them think through a problem.
Team notes & insights

4.1.2 – Share with a Partner

Workbook Activity (5 mins)

  • Ask participants to write some answers and thoughts to the prompts:
  • When someone I care about is struggling, I usually tell them...
  • When I am struggling, I usually tell myself...

Pair Discussion (2 mins)

  • Ask participants to compare the pictures with a partner.

Debrief Discussion (3 mins)

  • Ask participants:
  • What do you notice?
  • Are you kinder to others than you are to yourself?
  • What happens when we speak harshly to ourselves?
  • What might change if we spoke to ourselves like a good friend?
Your response

🔑 CLOSING KEY MESSAGES

  • The way we speak to ourselves matters.
  • When we treat ourselves with kindness and honesty, we become stronger and more able to keep going.

📝 Knowledge Check: 4.1.2 – Share with a Partner

  1. A woman says 'I work from dawn into the night. I don't have a moment to take care of myself!' What would you say to her?

    Your answer

  2. After this exercise, a man in the group says, 'this is for women. A man who rests is a lazy man' What would you say to him?

    Your answer